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Your opinions matter.

youropinionsmattertoo

Darling,
You were born to be a rainstorm,
To send your voice out, in through the night.
To sing your song; irrespective of the falling drops,
To break the darkness with your light.

You were born
To show the world the true meaning of beauty,
To wash away the dirt from their eyes.

But when the world didn’t listen,
You opened your arms,
You accepted what they said
And made your thunder silent
And taught yourself to bite your tongue and hold back.

You gave them what they wanted-
Sunshine, rain and life.

You don’t realise that you were hurting yourself,
That are taking you for granted.

You miss your booming presence in the sky;
You feel it and you know it.

Remember one thing,
You were born to be a rainstorm,
Not rain,
Not drizzle.
You were born to be chaotic and bold,
To show that small doesn’t mean insignificant,
To show the world that you cannot be controlled.

Don’t ever think that you are not needed.
Life without you may be the same,
But remember that you matter
And that there won’t be anyone like you.

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A relationship of 132.42 crores of people

Daily Prompt: Toxic

an often neglected toxic relationship

India is fast becoming a nation divided by a virulent political climate. The divide has always been there. After all, we all have our differing political philosophies.

Many people see the role of the government as having a duty to act in the best interest of the nation and that our laws need to be structured with the betterment of the country as a whole having the highest priority. Others see the role of government as acting in the best interest of the individual in the sense that the role of the India Constitution is to protect its citizens from government exploitation. There is no dividing point of the right or the wrong in either philosophies. In fact, there are a lot of crossovers- overlapping of philosophies.

However, there are certain factors that have changed what many perceive as the legitimate role of government and what our highest priorities should be. Much of the division between how Indians perceive themselves has a lot to do with their priorities. For many, family and self are their major priorities. For others, national military standing, trade policies and fiscal policies is their highest priority. For others still, it can be a mixture or even no priorities at all.

This perception that it’s my view or the highway has led to a new toxic reaction to differing points of view and philosophical outlooks. Many people, on both the left and the right, are becoming less flexible and increasingly intolerant of the views of others. We now have a new term known as conformational bias that has found its way into our vocabulary. Confidential bias has become more prevalent in our culture because of social media. It was not a plot, it’s just a side effect.

Conformational bias has always been around but the advent of social media has been a major factor in bringing it to the forefront in how it affects our viewpoints. Confirmation bias is basically believing what one chooses to believe. We’re all guilty at some point of conformational bias. Social media advances our personal conformational biases as it allows us to pick and choose what we want to believe and it gives us the ability to negotiate primarily with others who have the same or similar beliefs.

Until we become more cognizant of our susceptibility to be conformationally biased, it will continue to divide us and advance the toxic paralysis that has come to tear our nation apart. We must recognize that we all have a several common beliefs than the  divisional beliefs. We all agree in general that sunsets are beautiful. We all agree in general that it would be ideal to have laws that define the limits of social behaviour. We all agree in general that our country has problems. The problem is with the latter, whom we choose to blame for the problems in our country is a matter of perspective.

I think we can all agree too that we should probably tone down this toxic numbness that has brought us to this point.

We can overcome this by:

being more tolerant of other people’s beliefs and stop taking things so personally.

We need to stop finding differences among people on personal matter and must start trying to a find more common ground. In other words, we need to agree to disagree and stop trying to plunging our opinions down the throats of others.

You can’t change a person’s mind by abusing them physically or verbally.

A mental block

Since the past month, I think, I haven’t been able to think of things to write about. I haven’t been able to think or produce new or creative work.

This is really frustrating.

I can’t think. I can’t write.

It upsets me so much.

Is this what people refer to as the writer’s block?

I feel like screaming, crying and throwing and breaking things.

Even if I sit down to write no matter what, I can’t decide. I can’t choose a topic to write about or come up with a story or poem that I’m happy or satisfied with.

This is hard for me to understand and harder to accept.

The daily prompts given by WordPress make me feel worse. The prompts are actually given to help us think, to trigger off a thought process, but they make me feel worse. I feel helpless.

Prompts like premonition and imagination and conversant and the rest fail to help me think. I know I can write on those, but my thoughts don’t flow. Even if they do, I don’t think it’s worth publishing.

While having a shower this morning, I thought this was happening because I’m not able to give enough time to blogging because of my upcoming exams. Maybe if I spend more time working on my blog, I will be able to write.

But I’m not sure how often this will happen or for how long it will last. I don’t know if the causes are a stressed mind or being intimidated by the other blogs that I read or because I expect a lot from myself or a combination of the three or some other reasons which I will discover at a later point in time.

Does this happen to you all too? How do you overcome this? How long does this last for? Please tell me, help me.

This is my rant. I can probably go on but I’m already feeling stressed about the other things that I haven’t done.

And here’s a message to those of you who choose to find the time to help me write, I’ll be grateful to you and I’ll show you that you did not waste your energy. Not to brag but I’m hardworking and sincere and committed.

Take care all of you, spread love and stay happy ♥

Compromise

compromise

Daily Prompt: Compromise

I see no point in this prompt, in this word in fact. I don’t seem to be able to understand the purpose of this word.

The dictionary defines this word as the settlement of differences by arbitration or by consent reached by mutual concessions.

But why? Why are people expected to make compromises or sacrifices?

In marriages, women are expected to give up their dreams, aspirations, hobbies, interests and basically everything else about themselves to settle down with some man. They have to make adjustments to be able to acquaint themselves with his family. They are expected to change themselves. They are expected to change their lives and purpose they initially believed that their lives had. But I have one question- Why does this have to happen? Okay, I am not saying that women should not make adjustments and that everyone else should. I am only saying that there is no need for anyone to make any changes in themselves, in their lives or desires. Why can’t people accept and complement each other and love and spread love throughout all phases of life?

What is the need for people to change themselves and make sacrifices to be able to co exist and to ensure harmony?

This prompt has awakened the indecisive person in me and has made me rant pointlessly.

With loads of love,
Thank you WordPress.

 

14.02.2018

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Daily Prompt: Suspicious

This one’s for you                                                                                                                              For each of you who,
Stand by me when life is a mess, a storm and completely askew.

This one’s for holding me in one piece when I was lost and breaking,
For those little pushes, and the pats on the back that kept me going,

For putting up with my incessant bawling, for seeing through my travesty,
And for lending me an ear, for owning me with my flaws,

For driving away my insecurities before they could seep through my veins and buckle me down,
For not letting me fall apart during moments of self doubt

And  for bothering to stay around.

For times good, bad and rotten,
For words, occasions and memories that are unforgettable but not remembered.

Happy Valentine’s to you,
You make every day worth looking forward to.                                                                                I love you.

 

•Beauty•

We all crave for acceptance.

We crave acceptance from all people.

From the ones we love and matter, to the ones we just know,

And when even that isn’t enough, we crave to be accepted by people whom we don’t even know.

But why?

But love, why would you spoil your beauty,

And perfection to meet people’s ideas and expectations of beauty?

Why do you want to accept a life that isn’t yours?

Remember, that there’s always a curvier body, a smarter neighbour, a rounder booty, a more successful friend or a hotter colleague.

But there isn’t a better you in this world.

Make that your power.

You should have the power to be you.

Stop conforming, shed the camouflage and show the world your beauty and vibrant colours.

Don’t hide what you are.

My love, you are charming.

You should look in the mirror and love the person you see,

Love yourself.

Love your laughter, smile more, love your scars and your past.

Love yourself because if you don’t then you can’t expect others to.
I know that it isn’t easy to always be alright, to always be happy and to always have hope. But hey, don’t do this for anyone but yourself. You are the only person who will always be there for you, so take care. Don’t harm yourself, the world outside is doing enough of that. Take care, stay happy and love yourself.